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How To Find Your Twin Flame 🔥 🔥

Want to transform your life & find "the one"?

You know which one. The one you think will make your life complete. The one you dream of spending the rest of your life with.

Before you can truly find & deeply know "the one" you must . . .

FIRST: learn to love, approve of & accept yourself.

This is a practice you will have to build & invest in throughout your entire life.

It is not something you get to do once & then it magically continues to work on its own.

That would be like working out at the gym & eating healthfully for one day and expecting to be fit & healthy for the rest of the year.

Anything worth having takes continuous energetic investment.

Once you have a healthy level of self love, approval & acceptance open yourself to a partner that calls forth the highest vision that lives deep within your heart & Spirit.

This is a secret to radically hypergrowth your own apotheosis.

Alone we can be strong, grow, heal & transform.

But together we get to do it at an even faster clip.

And with another we get to be VULNERABLE.

This is where true power to transform lies.

It is the magical dark & scary cavern that holds the greatest of treasures.

And if we have the courage to face & embrace our inner darkness...

Truly profound & permanent healing, positive change & transformation becomes available.

Rarely can this journey be done alone.

We live, grow, heal & transform through the PEOPLE in our lives.

It is through #vulnerability with others that we get to access our deepest capacity to self-heal.

Plus, we get to learn how to powerfully be there for another even when it isn't easy & convenient.

This alone builds incredible character and reinforces our own ability to love & accept ourself even when it is incredibly difficult.

By being vulnerable you give others PERMISSION to do the same.

And in that shared safe-space the fire of transformation is lovingly ablaze.

This is who I share my Spirit-Fire with.

I call her my Priestess & my Phoenix.

She is both my heart-fire & the Goddess who beckons me powerfully forth along my HIGHEST PATH in life.

I had to learn to love myself before I could truly SEE her.

But when I did she blossomed in my life like lighting & I've been radically transformed for the better ever since.

For HER. I am forever & deeply grateful.

Have you learned to love, approve of & accept yourself?

If not, do not expect to find lasting solace in another.


Alchemical Resources:

  • "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise L. Hay. This is the book that I used as a guide to learn how to truly love myself. It changed my life. Get the gift edition with colorful pictures -- I swear they heal your inner child as you view them.
  • Here is a video-blog where I get vulnerable and go deep into how I discovered my Twin Flame by learning to love myself:

Alchemical Opportunity for the Reader:

  1. Develop your own daily practice of self-love. Make it easy. And make it the first thing you do upon waking. Here is what I do:
    1. Stand in front of the mirror.
    2. Look myself in the eye.
    3. And say: "I love myself. I approve of myself. I accept myself. I am grateful for myself."
    4. Special note: This simple self-love practice seems easy enough, but don't be surprised if you find yourself feeling ashamed, stupid, foolish, crying & other darker emotions. I had to persistently say these affirmations daily for several months & work through a lot of self-hate & self-cruelty before I could powerfully make these statements and actually believe them without crying or wanting to ridicule myself. In short, be prepared for your "stuff" to come up as you do these standing in-the-mirror affirmations.
  2. Have some other awesome self-love practices, rituals, & habits? Share them in the comments below so others can benefit from the powerful work you have done in your life! 💓 Together we heal & alchemize so much faster! 🙌🏼

We must love ourselves first before we can TRULY love another.

Start with your own heart.

Then the Universe will deliver another that beats in synchronicity with your own creating the most beautiful harmony that is so much greater than the sum of the two parts.

This is how you DISCOVER your #TwinFlame.🔥🔥

In alchemy & service,

Justin David Carl 🌒

 

Photo by  Noelle  | Socks & Briefs by  Related Garments

Photo by Noelle | Socks & Briefs by Related Garments

Nature-Play: Our Key To Connection & Re-Connection

 "If we surrendered to earth's intelligence we could rise up rooted, like trees." -Rilke

Spending time in nature always re-roots me in my own innate happiness & it creatively re-charges me like nothing else.

Carl Jung, renowned psychologist, realized that he was happiest and his most creative ideas came to him while he was building sand castles.

Later he would have his clients return to doing what they did between the ages of 4-10 as part of his therapy process.

During those childhood ages I spent all my time outside. Hours upon hours roaming forests, playing along rivers & streams, walking along the ocean, and climbing anything & everything (hills, mountains, trees, buildings, etc.).

Sometimes I just sat in the grass or in a tree looking upon the skylight.

Connecting with nature.  😇

Connecting with nature. 😇

I also spent a ton of time outside riding my bike, jumping on our giant trampoline doing all sorts of flying acrobatic tricks & rollerblading through the urban jungles like a true badass.

But always I was . . .

Exploring. Myself. Mother Earth. Father Sky.

Communing & connecting. With myself. With the Divine.

And despite the chaos that so many of us experience with our family growing up . . .

I was happy.

Even despite my parents divorce and physical abuse from an older brother who was going through much more hardship than me I still regularly found my way back to inner joy through play in nature.

I have returned to this practice in my adulthood. Whenever I feel stressed or unhappy getting outdoors and connecting with nature is an incredibly simple way to reconnect with myself and this beautiful world we live in.

Though I prefer long jaunts through nature hikes and days spent at the beach I more often just take a walk wherever I happen to be.

Neighborhood walks where I breathe in the trees and plants light my mind & heart on fire. Joy & creativity re-ignited.

At times during the hyper-speed of working in Silicon Valley building a Stanford startup I forget this important connection to Gaia.

And when I do forget it isn't long before I am feeling frazzled & fried.

Yet, all it takes to renew & reconnect is a little play outdoors. A brisk walk taking in the plants & trees. An exhilarating bike ride or a blade session. Hiking, the beach, lawn games & acroyoga/yoga in the park. Or even bouncing on my mini fitness trampoline in the sunshine right outside my house. 

Mother Nature. Father Sky. I love you!

Alchemical Learnings:

  1. Nature is a part of our inner child and our inherent joy & creativity.
  2. We can easily reconnect to ourselves and the infinite energy of this world by simply getting outside & letting our child-Self play.
  3. A simple daily morning walk sets the tone for a magical day.  I fall out of this habit despite knowing how great it is for me. Especially when the weather is cold/wet. Nonetheless, I bike to the gym weekly (even in the rain) so I proactively get my outdoor charge no matter what. [So stop being so hard on yourself, Justin.]
  4. Don't make it hard to reconnect if limited on time. Even 5 minutes walking outside wherever one is at the moment (even the office) can work wonders.
  5. Having live plants (flowers, bamboo, succulents, etc) in the work-space & home is a simple life-hack that can keep me connected even when I am unable to get outdoors. Like when I am feeling like too much of a baby to go out in the rain or claiming to be "too busy."
  6. Play outside is like reconnecting with childhood bliss. It's not gone. We just have to remember. Remembering that "actually counts" happens through action. Time to go rollerblade & do outdoor acroyoga & frisbee with my fiancé! Often it’s even more magical when shared with others.

Alchemical Opportunity for the reader:

  1. What did you do between the ages of 4-10? Can you re-instill your childhood practice of play in your life now?
  2. Can you make it a daily habit (aka daily ritual) to just go outside and consciously connect with nature for a few minutes? If a walk sounds like too much, how about a 5-minute sit? Still too much? Smell a flower or stare at a plant.
  3. Go buy yourself some plants and arm your physical space with the power of Gaia. Any that catch your fancy will do. Plenty of studies out there showing how amazing this is for your health & happiness (Google it).
  4. Play outside. Pick whatever comes to mind. Don't make it hard. The key is to take action. Today.

We were conceived in connection & joy. And all we have to do to reconnect to our true Self is reconnect with Mother Earth & Father Sky and play with their healing touch & gaze upon us.

We are all children of this Universe.

Let us remember.

And before I go... How do you play outside? 

In alchemy & service,

Justin David Carl 🌒

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